It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
First of all…who is this guy? Well, Wikipedia describes him as “…a German philosopher, poet, composer, cultural critic, and classical philologist. He wrote critical texts on religion, morality, contemporary culture, philosophy, and science, displaying a fondness for metaphor, irony, and aphorism.” And check out that ‘stache, I mean…c’mon! It just screams “lady’s man” right??
My husband and I are coming up on our 14th dating anniversary this month and I know that our friendship that we grew on the bus ride to school every morning (we started dating our Sophomore year) has been a cornerstone of our romantic relationship and marriage as well.
We game together, we share some hobbies together, and we talk all the time. ALL THE TIME! Perhaps you missed it: All-the-time! Like two teenage BFF’s.
What do we talk about?
We talk about his work, Trubba, life, etc. We also talk about how many people just got out of a small 1980s model Honda at Costco — it was seven, for the curious. I tease him about his love of pretzel rolls and he teases me about my constant FB involvement (no, I haven’t quite made it to the fulfillment of that New Year’s resolution). We talk about cars, Halo 4 maps, and scrapbooking. We also talk about money and what we need to do to make our budget work. I believe all this talking is why our relationship has remained so solid (along with a hefty amount of brutal honesty and trust) especially under all the new recent stressors of adding a child to our family, arranging childcare, and then shifting to a one income family.
Year 14 was full of memories and lots of changes! So, now we go into 15!!